If you follow me on Instagram, you’ll know that I recently deleted my social media for a little over two weeks. Today is my first day back and I have a few things I want to share about how it went. First of all, let’s start with why I needed a break.
Why I deleted my social media:
One of the biggest reasons why I decided to delete my social media was because I found myself wasting way too much time on Instagram and Facebook. They are such a time suck and without even realizing it, you can be scrolling through for a good 30 minutes to an hour! I encourage you to look in your settings to see how much time you spend in each app…it’s shocking! I found that I was distracted by it most of the day and it was starting to take time away from my kids. Sure, I would play with Grey but I wasn’t focused 100% on him and that made me sad. I don’t want him to grow up with memories of my face buried in my phone.
Social media can also be a really negative thing. You see everyone’s highlight reels and it’s really easy to get pulled into the wrong mindset of, “oh she has this and I don’t” or “she’s so put together, what’s wrong with me?”. For the most part I can remind myself that it really is just a highlight reel…because honestly if you look at my accounts, it looks like my life is pretty put together, too! But sometimes I get sucked into the comparison game and I just don’t think that is healthy.
It can also be difficult because I do have a blog and YouTube channel and would love to grow my following on all platforms. I truly enjoy creating content and sharing my life and I feel like I need to be active on all accounts to build a community. Sometimes it can be exhausting and worrying about the “numbers” can get really annoying.
So I just needed a break. I needed to realize that life still went on without social media.
The first few days:
I took notes in my phone the whole time and on day 1 I wrote this:
“I am already reaping the benefits. I was in Home Depot with Grey waiting on paint to get mixed and I went to check my phone. I remembered that I don’t have social media so instead of wasting my time on my phone, I started talking to Grey. We were in the paint department so I asked what color of room he wanted and he said he would like an orange, blue and black room. He also wants to decorate it with a Christmas tree.”
I really feel like I was missing out on conversations like this because I was constantly distracted by my phone. There were also some silly things I realized like one day Kane surprised me with a latte from Starbucks and I realized I had no reason to take a picture of it. LOL. I also realized that I would get into bed at night and the battery on my phone would be at 70% instead of 12%!
After the first week:
I started to feel kind of…lonely? That sounds really dramatic but 99% of my conversations with friends actually happened on social media. This encouraged me to text and call people a little bit more. It’s amazing how we can go months without speaking to people on the phone…or even texting them! It was nice to reconnect with some old friends and see how they were doing.
There were also some things that I missed about social media. Like I said above, I love sharing my life and when exciting things happened, I didn’t have a way to share it with anyone but my close friends and family. For example, Scarlett only woke up once one night and I wanted to shout it from the rooftops but I couldn’t…she also started sitting up in the cart at the grocery store AND Grey is potty trained! It’s these fun and exciting things that I love sharing and it made me a little sad that I couldn’t post about it. I also missed seeing updates from all of my friends. I love seeing what everyone is up to and what milestones their kids are reaching…so I was bummed to be missing out on all of that.
I was also a little surprised at how much I missed watching Instagram stories. I love stories because I feel like they are a bit more “real”. You get to see and hear about every day lives instead of just looking at a pretty picture. But like I mentioned above, stories can be a real time suck.
Also, did you know that Facebook and Instagram will email you to try and show you “what you’re missing”? I thought it was funny that these emails were suddenly showing up in my inbox because I hadn’t checked my accounts for so long.
In the future:
I am not exactly sure how I am going to go about using social media now but I do know it will be a lot less. I am thinking about setting certain times of the day aside where I will allow myself to have some time for social media. Another thing I am going to do is leave my phone on the counter or in another room when I’m playing with my kids. That way I won’t be tempted to pick it up and distract myself with it.
I have learned that there are good things and bad things about social media and I honestly have mixed feelings about being back. I think it’s such a fun way to stay in contact with friends and family and it’s so fun connecting with people all over the world but a lot of time can be wasted if I am not careful.
I hope that you can take some time to step away if you notice the things I had been noticing. I think it’s so healthy for us to just live sometimes and not worry so much about the internet world.
I’m curious, have you ever done a social media detox??