Night weaning is no joke. I had to do it twice with Grey. Once when he was about 15 months old and again when he was closer to two. I realized on my second attempt to night wean that you pretty much go through the same six stages of grief. I will say, the second time around was a little easier…but still sucked. And yes, I have a whole post on how we did it coming soon! Until then, let me know if you can relate to any of these. (Oh and ps, all of these stages usually occur on the first night. It’s a rollercoaster of emotion!!)
You have made the decision to night wean. You have looked up everything there is to know about how to get it done and have decided on how you are going to do it. You are motivated, hopeful, and excited at the thought of better sleep!
Two minutes into night one and it doesn’t go as well as you had hoped. Suddenly all of the confidence and motivation from stage one has disappeared and you start wondering if you should even be night weaning.
“Is he old enough?”
“Yes, of course he is!”
“Should I wait a little while longer?”
“No, no be strong. You can do it!”
The night doesn’t seem to be getting much better and suddenly you are panicking! You are in a full sweat, possibly even crying yourself and beginning to consider ditching night weaning entirely!
You have been trying to soothe your baby and he still won’t sleep…or in some cases he won’t even calm down. You feel as though you’ve tried everything and nothing is working. You are so frustrated!! Thoughts of giving up come creeping back in and you aren’t sure how much longer you can do this.
After a brief moment of frustration, you start to sympathize with your little one. You realize he doesn’t know any better…this is a huge change for him and of course he doesn’t like it! Up until now he has been used to an all night buffet so no one can blame him for being upset. You pull him in a little closer and tell him it will all be okay.
6. Amazement, Surprise and Disbelief
All of the sudden, he’s asleep! You realize it (hopefully) hasn’t even been that long! After months and months of nursing to sleep…he has fallen asleep without nursing for the very first time. Everything is okay. You feel like a million bucks and all of that confidence from stage one comes rushing back! You’ve got this! You are going to night wean that baby! It wasn’t so hard!
You climb into bed with a renewed sense of excitement and are ready to take on the rest of the night. You feel motivated and like you can accomplish anything!
That is…until your sweet little angel wakes up for his next nursing session and you are cycling through stages 1-6 all. over. again.
Can anyone relate?! Let me know your night weaning stories in the comments below!