I want to start by sharing the journey of how we became a co sleeping family. Prior to giving birth, I thought co sleeping was crazy. I remember reading a blog post about it and thinking, “Oh my gosh, they actually let their baby sleep in bed with them!”, and I felt like it was super taboo and I didn’t understand it at all. I was 100% against it and there was no way our children were going to sleep in our bed.
And then a couple nights after having Grey I ate all of my words and now I cannot even imagine a night without him being in our bed. It’s crazy how that happens, huh??
My plan was to have him sleep in a bassinet next to our bed but a couple of nights in, I quickly realized that no one was getting any sleep. Grey wasn’t sleeping well and I was a nervous wreck because I thought he was going to stop breathing. I would literally start getting anxious when it started getting dark out because I knew we would be going to bed soon.
On about the third or fourth day home, I was laying in the bed with him one afternoon and we both fell asleep. We slept for two hours straight! This had not happened since we brought him home! I was actually able to fall into a somewhat deep sleep and Grey stayed asleep for two whole hours! So, I figured I would try it that night and see what happened.
What happened was that we both slept! He of course woke up throughout the night to eat but I was able to sleep better and he seemed to be sleeping better as well!
I was really nervous to mention to anyone that we were co sleeping so I started doing some research. It turns out that it is actually good for your babies to sleep next to you and it is normal in a lot of countries! There is so much research about the benefits of co sleeping and you can find some good articles on it here, here and here.
So now I am going to get into the Who, What, Where, How and Why of it all…and hopefully answer some of your questions!
In the very beginning, Grey actually slept with his head on my shoulder and with my arm around his body so there wasn’t much of a chance for Kane to roll over onto him anyways. Having Grey so close to me allowed me to fall into a deeper sleep…but the second he started to wake up, I would wake up as well. (And still do to this day.) It’s really amazing how good our Momma senses are!
Like I’ve mentioned above, it was the only way we could all get some sleep! We were all more comfortable just being in bed together. It also helped tremendously with breastfeeding. It kept my supply up and I was able to just stay in bed when Grey woke up to eat.
A few other things…
I think one of the biggest concerns (aside from safety) about co sleeping is that, “your kids will never leave your bed.” We aren’t at the stage yet where we want or need Grey out of our bed so I can’t answer that based on experience…but what I will say is that they are only little for such a short period of time. We obviously won’t have a 15 year old in bed with us but if he wants to sleep with us for a while right now…so be it! I don’t like sleeping alone so why should I expect my baby to?
Something else to note…co sleeping is very messy in the beginning. All night nursers tend to pee all night long as well…which led to me changing a diaper or changing the sheets constantly. Newborns and infants also tend to spit up a lot…so take it from me and buy extra bed sheets or be prepared to wash yours a lot.
Lastly, I really enjoy co sleeping and it is what works for our family. I am well aware that it doesn’t work for everyone and that other babies prefer to sleep alone. That is totally fine! We all have to do what is best for our families. I’m hoping to put some of you at ease because I remember how nervous I was in the beginning. You aren’t doing anything wrong, I promise! (And don’t let anyone tell you differently!!!)
I think I covered most of it but if you have any questions at all, don’t hesitate to reach out! You can email me at email@example.com or leave a comment below. Also, I will have another post up soon on co sleeping with your toddler because a lot of things change!
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Thanks so much for reading!
Read part two all about co sleeping with a toddler, here.