Have you read The 5 Love Languages?
If you haven’t, I really recommend reading it. Even if you aren’t married or in a relationship at the moment. It will change the way you think about your future relationships and it will change the way you communicate with your partner.
At least it did for us.
The 5 Love Languages are:
-Words of Affirmation
-Acts of Service
My love languages are quality time, gifts, and acts of service. While Kane’s are words of affirmation, acts of service and physical touch. You see this is so important to know because it lets us communicate in a better way. For instance, let’s talk about gifts. I love them. And I’m not talking about getting an expensive gift every other day…it really is the little things. I love when Kane surprises me with a coffee at work or when he comes home from the grocery store with my favorite chocolate bar. I love when he leaves me little notes around the house or brings me flowers for no reason. But for him…it’s different. Of course he appreciates the gifts, little notes and surprises…but they don’t speak to him like they do to me.
It’s the same with words of affirmation. It means a lot to Kane to hear me say that I’m proud of him or that he’s looking rather handsome that day. He appreciates it when I take notice in him or how hard he is working. For me though…it’s different. I really do love when he tells me that I’m beautiful or that he’s proud to be my husband…but it doesn’t speak to me in the same way.
These are vital things to know about each other because if we didn’t know, I might be showering him with gifts and he might be telling me I’m beautiful 20 times a day…and we would both be getting no where.
Knowing this information about each other allows us to love deeper and to speak more clearly.
If you haven’t already…pick up this book and give it a read. I think you will be surprised at how much you learn about yourself and your partner.
In the meantime, I’ll be picking my copy back up to read again.